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A Quiet Moment


A Quiet Moment

From the author Katrina Kenison, this passage struck home with me.

“When I come to a stop myself, when I draw a circle of stillness around me, my children are drawn into that peaceful place. They visibly relax, as if my very calmness nourishes them. The impact of just a few minutes of quiet attention can be profound, changing the mood of an entire day, restoring equilibrium to a distressed child, and to a frazzled mother.

We might sit side by side and draw, or gather up a stack of favorite old picture books and read them, make strange creatures out of clay, or just cuddle on the couch and listen to music as darkness falls. These are the moments when my children reveal themselves to me, when conversation spirals up and out, from the here and now into the realm of spirit and imagination. There, in that place Tennyson calls the ‘quiet limit of the world,’ we connect with one another at a very deep soul level. My children know then that they have my full attention and, even more important, that there’s no other place I’d rather be at that moment.”

As my children grow older, it gets harder to find quiet moments (or to even find them). I think my solution is that I have to plan the moments rather than happen upon them. Not quite as spontaneous (which is the way I roll), but maybe even more necessary now than when they were little.

Here’s hoping we all can create a quiet moment with our children this weekend…I know I will try!

xo, Bar

 

A Love Quote


A Love Quote

I found this quote on Pinterest. Like many images on Pinterest, the source never led me to the original. I really wanted to print it out, so I made my own version. And I made this printable so you can print it out, too!

valentine's printable | art bar

This quote is so perfect because it reminds me to look for the magic in those that I love. We all get so bogged down with the day-to-day grind that we end up yelling, blaming and criticizing those that we adore, which is all wrong. Let’s print this out and hang it in our bathrooms (the place where we will surely read it every day) to help us look for the magic, and turn to love. ♡

Have a happy week!

xo, Bar

 

Siblings + Love This {four}


Siblings + Love This {four}

Spending time with my sister and brother this holiday, and watching my own kids (who have the same birth order as I did growing up) made me realize once again that sibling relationships are like no other. My kids, they fight a lot. All three have strong personalities…there is not one of them who is flexible or easy going. No wallflowers. We need earplugs in this house. But they love each other, too. They hold hands when we go for walks, they snuggle together in the mornings in one of their beds (usually the oldest’s), and they would fight for each other in an instant. I learn from them, and watching their relationships develop makes me appreciate my own siblings that much more. Our love is complicated, but our bond is simple.

Here is my latest edition of Love This:

1. Last summer, we bought the box set of The Fresh Prince of Bel Air for all of our road trips. The kids laughed until they peed. Recently I found this clip from a British talk show featuring Will Smith. If you are a fan of the show, watch this! I love that Will Smith.

2. David Foster Wallace’s commencement address to the Kenyon class of 2005 is an “earth-shatteringly amazing speech that’ll change the way you think about adulthood”. It was made into this stunning video.

3. I will finally be teaching my 7-yr old how to tie his shoes. This is happening today!

4. This time-lapse movie of a homeless Veteran’s transformation opened all of our eyes to the struggles they endure, and how much they need our help. Watch with your kids.

5. My cousin, yoga instructor extraordinaire, sent me this article on why girls need yoga (not judging or comparing is one of many lessons learned).

6. I bought this mini poster for my daughter for Christmas. Love!

7. Read this incredible and inspiring story of a Chinese woman who saved and raised 30 abandoned babies she found while collecting rubbish. Amazing.

8. I love this one Dad’s bedtime story to his young daughter. Sick of having his daughter praised for her looks, he brilliantly began teaching her to love her body in a completely different way.

Enjoy the rest and relaxation of vacation…I’ll see you in the new year!!

xo Bar

{ps: the photo is of me and my brother and sister, winter 1975.}